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A Job is not an end all be all

Posted by admin On June - 30 - 2010

Jobs are important.  BUT a job is not an end all be all.  Jobs give us:

1) money

2) sometimes meaning in life

3) validity in our skills

4) a chance to be noticed and seen

5) a chance to grow

These are some of the great things that jobs can do you for you.  But what can you do for yourself without a job.  I know, it can be depressing being unemployed, but there are a number of things that you can do to achieve all of the above.  Empower yourself. 

1) Find alternative and temporary positions that can give you money.  Craigs List, temp agencies, and Linked in are great ways to get connected and see what is out there.  Be careful not to post your resume on-line though.  If you do, temp agencies do not resend your resume to those companies, which maked it harder for them to advocate for you — apparently there is a policy that they cannot send resumes you have already sent yourself.  It is buried in a file already. 

2) Get Creative.  An interesting website to check out where you can offer a service for $5.  Like to sing, write, do something interesting?  Make money at Fiverr where people pay to be entertained. http://www.fiverr.com/

3)  Exercise.  I know what you’re thinking: I’m tired of running around all day looking for a job.  I don’t need to run, bike, jog, tumble in the grass.  But seriously, if you get those blood vessels dilated, you’ll probably be less stressed.  And happier.  And you’ll be seen.  And you might run into a friend or make a friend.  But nothing new will come to you unless you go out there and seeik it. 

4) Volunteer.  Yes, doing free work might bite.  But you might make contacts and learn new skills.  It’s no harm in asking questions and finding a small organization that suits your needs and its own. 

Yes, being unemployed isn’t fun.  But there are creative ways to make it work.  Unconventionally. 

 If you have any suggestions or advice to share, do tell! We love you!

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LEAVING A JOB: CRAZY?

Posted by Tiffany A. On April - 13 - 2010

I'm Free BABY!

The day you leave your job, a part of you is excited to start a new chapter, a part of you is afraid that the next job or endeavor will be worse than the current situation, and a part of you is hoping that you are indispensable and somehow your manager will see how valuable you are with the company that you have worked for 1/3 of your day, every day for the past several years and ask you to stay.

In a way, a job is like a partner; it can be a bad lover, a great spouse or an annoying tax collector. Whatever the case, most of the time you go back to it.  Being “married” to your job is not an understatement.  You have a life outside of it, but it, whether you enjoy it or not, very much brings a structure to your life, socially and professionally.  You work the hours, you come home, sleep, wake up and do it again.  Until the weekend.  Maybe.  And you crave the acknowledgment and acceptance that comes with your status, position, seniority peers and bosses.  Even if stressing out is part of the deal, we often tell ourselves it is a ”good” stress that makes you feel important and productive. 

A close friend has just informed me that she has left her job. In this recession; in a time where every creature with a mouth, big or little, is hoping to find a stable feeder, she is leaving her job. Three people are taking over her portion until they get a replacement. But she made the leap so she can start a new chapter and perhaps her own business.

She told me in corporate, it seems that all the money is going into other people’s pockets except your own and that she hopes to never work for corporate again.  For the first time this weekend, she slept a nineteen-hour weekend.

Agree? Disagree? Admirable? Crazy?  Obsolete When All Employed welcome your comments!

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SUN NEGATIVITY DOWN!

Posted by Tiffany A. On March - 30 - 2010

Burn baby Burn!

The road is rough.   In a way, we are pioneers of our own lives.  We have to make meaning in what we do and how we do it.  And no one knows the formula to make sure that it ends well.  What pressure.

I have been thinking much.  People tell me not to.  I can’t help my thoughts – I suppose one can control them but they seem to zip on by like flies that you just can’t kill even if you stand very still.

Meditation, prayer … they bring relief and momentary peace but the days blur together in a collage that is so messy and yet so deeply set that I just want to get a pair of scissors and cut a new path.  Or dump some funky paint all over this pattern that has been laid out.    

The past 6 months has seemed like ages.  Time goes by so fast and yet so utterly slow.  It’s such a strange thing to reflect on what you have done and still feel the sole of the long road ahead pressing against the back of your neck. 

I guess my stiff neck, which has been bothering me for 5 days now, might have something to do with my foul mood.  But no more!  Even if I have to paint my nails hot pink, schedule a massage or cut salty foods out of my diet I will no longer hold fast to this negativity. 

Yesterday, I read an advice column on how to banish bad thoughts.  The advice was to imagine a BIG powerful sun killing it and replacing it with good, positive thoughts.  It worked. 

To all those who just need a huge ball of fire to wipe out all the chaos in your mind, go forth and IMAGINE! 

Love,

Tiff

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30 Days to Happiness: Days 2, 3, 4 & 5!

Posted by Ebony J. On March - 26 - 2010

Eludes me!

It’s time for me to update you people,

I have been on a quest for happiness, and it has been a treacherous road people. And I am going to be honest, it’s not as if I am searching for eternal bliss, or nirvana or whatever. I am not looking for enlightenment or any out of body experience. I just want to be content with the life I am living in the moment, in the present, in the NOW. Not the now, but the NOW. Get it?

Maybe not. Maybe I am not making any sense at all…but I do know that these past few days have been days of broken promises, and wishful thinking.

I made the following promise to myself, for each day of the week:

Monday: I will wake up every morning at the same time

Tuesday: I will forgive those from my past who did me wrong, and wished me ill

Wednesday: I will apply to ONE job per day, no more, no less

Thursday: I will look for solid volunteer opportunities, and out of them pick two that I will commit myself to

Friday:

I guess it is a lot of pressure to up keep with all these resolutions, But I think they can only bring good into my life. I don’t think I am going to establish new ones for the weekend, I am just going to make sure I reinforce these ones…till next week….

Ebony J.

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Failure to Launch Generation: Moving Home with Mom and Dad

Posted by Tiffany A. On March - 25 - 2010

I guess I'm the little one.

From Generation RX to the Me Generation, we are now called the ‘Failure to Launch’ generation’ due to the droves of young people moving home with mom and dad.  An article in the New York Times predicts that this trend will increase the number of multi-generational families living under one household and push back marriage and having kids.

There are many advantages to living at home: save money, spend quality time with your aging parents, relearn family values, have a support network.  But there are also cons:  parental control, limited freedom, and, as one girl interviewed said, “extended adolescence”.

A month ago, my cousin visiting from California wanted to go clubbing with me so, with the inner zest of the curious and the young, we happily hopped into his bright yell0w rent-a-car with all the fervor of a typical 90210 episode. 

The next day, my mom sat me down and gave me a long lecture of respect and family responsibility.  She was disappointed that I didn’t ask her for permission to leave the house. 

I suppose I shouldn’t feel too bad about this since I am not alone.  Apparently, minorites, unmarried foreign born young men, and college graduates are the biggest categories of people moving in with their parents.

However, seeing that I am one of these “boomerang,” children living with my baby boomer parents, the implications are slightly disturbing now that my theoretical lifepath of my prime years has been plainly mapped out. 

Based on this prediction, my goals and current circumstance, I probably will not have the lifestyle I want until I am at least 28 years old.  

My goal is to become financially independent, live in the mainland, travel and pursue higher education.  I choose to stay home because besides loving my family, moving out and paying off someone else’s mortgage does not make as much sense as living at home and contributing to my family’s mortgage, especially in a much smaller and flexible degree. 

Since I do not plan to get married until I am financially independent,  theoretically the earliest I will marry is  27, assuming that the economy picks up within 5 years, I have a stable job that can cover my expenses and pay off my student loans, I will have achieved higher education, I meet the right guy, I live in a city that I want to grow in, I have gotten my degree and have lived my single life to the fullest.   Realistically, it could be later. 

But wait.  I live on an island in the middle of the Pacific, which limits my chances of starting a career in the mainland unless I secure a job early and move out.  But moving to a new city requires planning and money, which will limit my mobility unless I somehow find a job in this recession that will allow me to move somewhere.  And young people just starting out hardly ever make enough to move out, much less live independently. 

I guess this is just a long drawn out sigh to my next 6 years unless something BIG happens.  True opportunities come and go, but with this economy the choices are limited and I think  Ebony Jacobs, writer of 30 Days of Happiness and cowriter of this blog, is right: we need to find happiness in the simple, mundane things as we stick it out.

Agree? Disagree? Comments?  Obsolete When All Are Employed is listening!

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Job Titles: Determines Self-worth?

Posted by Tiffany A. On March - 24 - 2010

I am super smart. I am! And ... I can get that stamped for you.

To claim that a piece of pie is awful is a matter of opinion but to claim that a woman, who has spent nearly her entire career preparing school lunches, is a “lunch lady” instead of a “cook” will surely cause a stir.

Jamie Oliver’s “Food Revolution” brought up some class issues during his dietary investigation of the citizens in Hungtington, Virginia, a small town known for its reputation as having the highest obesity in America.    The first episode showcased Oliver in the kitchen of a small elementary school, where he analyzed and critiqued how disgusting and unhealthy the food was.  After meeting Alice, one of the school district’s cooks, Oliver, a renowned British cook, asked her, “So how long have you been a lunch lady?”  Needless to say Alice and Oliver did not hit it off. 

Despite the argument that people’s work do not have to be one’s source of happiness, we spend 1/3 of our lives working.  Job titles matter.  Oliver viewed the school’s use of kitchen equipment as improper to cooking protocol; an oven is supposed to bake something not heat up processed pizza and chicken nuggets. 

However, not everyone has the opportunity to attend world-class cooking schools or the motivation to educate themselves in healthy cooking.  And is it right to call a person who has spent over a decade in the food business a simple “lunch lady?”

I have been told that investment bankers do nothing; they just sit around in their comfy desks turning numbers.  I have been told that managers do nothing; they sit with their fat cats at long drawn-out meetings and collect new projects to delegate to their workers later.  But if we were to call these investment bankers “Number Turners” and managers “Kings,” people would be upset. 

Whether we like it or not, job titles are intricately tied to personal self-worth and the social structure we live in.  And rarely do people pay attention to the simple janitor cleaning our halls or the cashier, necessary people in our lives. 

My questions of the day are:  Is there a healthy way to separate ourselves from our job titles, labels and statuses?  Do job titles genuinely reflect a person’s position and abilities?  Has capitalism encouraged personal fulfillment and pursuit of meaning or does it just make us confused with our place in life?    

Obsolete When All Are Employed Welcome your comments!

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30 Days to Happiness: Day 1

Posted by Ebony J. On March - 22 - 2010

Eludes me!

Okay, I need to make some changes in my life. I used to have such passion, ambition, fire-in-my-belly so to speak.

Now I barely want to leave my house.

I have decided to take this whole “happiness” thing on, one day at a time….so now on, everyday I am going to take one step towards my own happiness…

A month from now…I WANT TO BE HAPPY. I AM SICK AND TIRED OF BEING UNHAPPY…BECAUSE I AM UNEMPLOYED.

It is like the never ending song I hate, the vicious cycle I can not escape. No more! I am taking control of what is going to happen to me in the present, I really can’t deal with the emotional baggage I have been carrying for the past year.

Day one’s goal: I am going to wake up at the same time, every morning. That’s right no matter what, I am going to train myself to get up at 8am every morning.

Since I have been unemployed for a while, my sleep patterns have been erratic…no excuse! From now on..discipline, detail, and structure!

I am also the farthest thing from a morning person…but we shall see…

And also, if I wake up earlier in the day…I can make the most of my day and find more time to search for a job….which I have been doing diligently.

What would make you happy??? I know what would make me happy, in specifics but I also need to inject happiness in to the structure of my life, no cure-alls, no miracles….

Check back tomorrow for my second day quest for happiness…

29 more days and counting…

Ebony J.

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MAINTAIN YOUR SEXY 3

Posted by Tiffany A. On March - 10 - 2010

Sexiness starts small

Times are rough — dogs, cats, humans are barking up a storm.  But you don’t have to.   It’s time for another dose of sexiness. 

1)      Blink and Blink some more.  Staring at the computer promotes less blinking, thus tire puffy eyes.  Solution?  A nice dose of Frozen spoon.  Yup, that’s right. Get a spoon large enough to cover your eye (yes some people have huge buggers) and put it in the freezer for 10-15 minutes until it’s nice and cold.  Then put it over your eye (the back part).  Be gentle and use common sense please and don’t freeze your eyelid shut (not sure if that’s possible but you never know). 

2)      Hug something alive.   Try an animal.  People can be very annoying but animals never really talk back or deliberately try to irritate you.  Take 10 minutes to just hold a furry creature.  If you’re into reptiles, do that instead.  Or if you are lucky enough to be near a non-annoying person (furriness might matter in this case) and that person is OK with you in his or her personal space, hug a human.   I read that we are supposed to have 15 hugs a day for Optimal happiness.  Try for 5 whole minutes. 

3)      Twist.  Twisting promotes relaxation and flexibility for your spine.  Remember to breathe!  YOU ARE A WINDMILL OF LIFE! J

4)      Dream BIG! Like the red paper clip guy.  There was a guy who started off with a red paper clip and ended up trading it for a house.  Through a series of trades from a fish pen, to a an empty keg, to a recording contract, to a month’s free rent in Arizona, to a snow globe, to a part in a movie, he ended up trading for a house.  True story!  Google him!

Have a great day!

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Have some Sensitivity folks.
If  your life is going great, try to watch how you act around other people who are not. If a friend is crying or complaining, most of the time they just want someone to listen to them or give a few encouraging words.

If a friend is complaining about their job, the last thing you should do is tell them, “Find a new one.”

Of course people know that’s what they should do, but most of the time, they want a sympathetic ear.

BUT, if you really do think that they should go find a new one, the BEST thing to do as a friend is to ACTIVELY HELP them. It takes five minutes to Google up something or to make a call at a company you know is looking for someone.

If a friend calls to tell you that he or she is lonely, friendless, and empty or suggests any kind of feeling that he or she is down, DO NOT call the person dramatic, write the person off, or laugh at an attempt to make the other person feel better (yes, some weird people do that.)  You don’t know what the other person is going through or how bad it might feel.  People hide more than they reveal.
To all those people not feeling good, whether it be from employment or unemployment issues, self-esteem, just because sad or confused or whatever, and can’t find a sympathetic friend or do not have one and feel like you are going off the deep end, I HIGHLY suggest you look into stress and anxiety websites: help-treat-anxiety.com. You can also Google “crisis and stress lines“, and your state, to see who you can talk to over the phone when times are tough. Nearly every state has free mental health facilities, so please use them! Call, email, and walk in to the designated places, it just might lead you in the right direction of getting your life together, and in extreme cases, it just might save your life.

And no one will think you’re crazy because in this economy, I’m sure the phone is ringing off the hook. Don’t be afraid to call someone, anyone for stress and mental assistance. That is what they are there for! It’s not embarrassing because lots of people do it. Just like lots of people go see campus psychologists.

Happy Friday and Hope all is well with you, readers!
Obsolete When All Are Employed

P.S.: Willi William: Well said. We have taken your comment into extreme consideration, thank you for sharing your thoughts!

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Laziness vs. Contentment

Posted by admin On February - 15 - 2010

I am being productive. It's called resting.

I was jogging at the pace of a snail.  Lazy, you might say.  But in my defense, I was just content being me.

Friend: “Come on! You’re not even sweating”

Me: “I’m happy with how I look.  Everything is a work in progress.”

Contentment Speak:

  • Who says I have to be perfect tomorrow?
  • Why should I pay attention to a “deadline” I made up?

Friend: “That’s like if a kid said, I’m happy having my fifth grade IQ for the rest of my life.  It’s called being lazy.  Don’t you want to be the best you can be now?”

I have come a long way to becoming happy with myself.  Some people never do and those are the people that stress themselves out unnecessarily striving towards some glorified vision of themselves.  Take Benjamin Franklin who tried to work towards achieving 13 virtues, including honesty and loyalty.  He failed and cheated on his wife.

Or the typical Asian mom.

My mother tells me that if she doesn’t worry, the whole house will fall down.  As a perfectionist, if something is on her mind, she doesn’t sleep all night worrying about it.

STOP.  If you find yourself unable to sleep because of a problem, THE REALITY IS THAT THE PROBLEM WON’T GO AWAY JUST BECAUSE YOU THINK ABOUT IT.

Now, don’t get me wrong.  I’m not saying that we shouldn’t improve ourselves.  I just think that we need to give ourselves a break sometime from the stress of having to get things right all the time.

At the end of the day, the only criteria that you really have to worry about is your own.  And your criteria is comprised of socially constructed values: your parents, your friends, society, your idea of success, wealth, happiness.

But when those goals start anxiety?  Scratch it.  From a biological and psychological perspective, stress causes anxiety, cancer, depression, fatigue, diabetes and a slew of other problems.  So let the job stress go.  When you find a job, you will most likely miss the freedom of unemployment.

Don’t get me wrong: that doesn’t mean give up anytime you hit a problem.  It just means don’t kill yourself to get somewhere when the reality is that the concept of “time” is man-made.  Especially, if you are an impatient person.

BLAHBLAHBLAH.  Perhaps, I was being lazy.  But I’ve lost 10 + pounds since graduation and I’m pretty sure it’s because of less stress.

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